I didn’t go on an online dating site because I want to meet new friends. Ultimately, I want to meet the man with whom I hope to spend the rest of my life. And I’d like to have fun doing it! I would like to meet someone to date, to have fun with, to enjoy a little romance.
And yet, the best relationships begin with a strong foundation of friendship…
So what does one do when there seems to mutual interest, and then one backs off and offers friendship?
It would be disingenuous for me to say that I’m looking for new friendships in this manner. Instead, getting the brush-off and then being asked to be friends feels more like being on “keep warm” or “back burner” status. In other words, not something I enjoy.
I want to be on the front burner, the burner turned to hot, feeling a little sizzle!
the life and loves of Alisa B 
You keep looking for the pot that is boiling…..I would not turn down the friendship but I would be very cool with it..;) perhaps tell him about the next lucky guy that you gets to date you!
I’m not a back burner type of woman either. I don’t care for the whole dating a slew at a time, even if I do understand that the idea of it isn’t to make you invest yourself too much in one guy to the point that we’re not obsessing over him, because there’s no one else. At least that’s my interpretation of it.
I guess, you know? I guess keep looking because you’d like someone whose into you. For you … and dating is no cake walk, that’s for sure.
I wouldn’t mind the friendship. Chances are that it won’t get any further than being digital pen pals. But sometimes I do want to be on fire … that’s hard to find …
Good luck with your quest.
You should just look for fun and relaxation. Love will come when it is ready.