The reason I took the step of dating online is because my time is compressed: I get the children out the door in the morning, drive to work, work, drive to pick up the children, scramble to put dinner on the table and try to catch up on work, housework or quality time with my angels in the evening. I usually collapse of exhaustion sometime before ten each night. In other words, I don’t see a lot of openings or opportunities during which I might happen across someone who shares similar interests, knows other folks in common or might otherwise catch my gaze from across the room, knowing instantly…
Ideally, this would all unfold more naturally: my wish is to meet someone who is part of one of my circles, with whom I get to spend time in groups — someone with whom a sense of comfort and interest will develop over time, blossom into a friendship and then become passionate over time.
So here is my wish to the universe:
- Let him have kind eyes and a warm smile.
- Let him get me and all my weirdness and idiosyncracies and love me not in spite of them but because of them.
- Let our relationship come at the right time and for the highest good of everyone involved.
- Let us bring out the best in one another.
- Let us be blessed with abundance so that we may give and share and be generous with the blessings we bestow upon others.
- Let him save a special look just for me.
- Let us love, honor and respect each other.
I realize this list is a great deal different from what I wrote many, many months ago — and which I haven’t looked at since I don’t know when, probably more than a year now.
I’m not sure whether or how this might happen, but I’m keeping the faith and holding space in my heart for the possibility.
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I just wanted to let you know that although the odds seem completely against it, it IS possible to meet someone amazing via on-line dating. Like you, I am divorced with kids, a full-time job, etc. and I have been amazingly blessed to meet a completely wonderful man that has all of the qualities that you have listed above plus a bunch of others that I hadn’t even thought of. If it wasn’t for on-line dating, I never would have met him (or anyone else, realistically!). It’s just so difficult with schedules like ours.
But I would say to stick with it and keep an open mind…I wasn’t sure what I thought of my guy on our first date, but I went out with a second time (and third, etc….) because we had so much in common. Attraction set in, and it ended up being thing that has happened to me in years. I wish the same for you! 🙂
Sorry typo….it ended up being the BEST thing that has happened to me in years….
Knowing what you want from a partner and from a relationship is one of the most important first steps. I’d say you’re well on your way…