So…I went back to online dating. Back, that is, to the freebie, noncommittal site where I’m suspicious about whether I’m wasting my time. The online approach is a needle-in-a-haystack gambit anyway, but I met a few interesting folks last time around, so why not give it a shot?
At least that’s what I was thinking when I clicked “reinstate”…and, despite the fact that several men have contacted me and I have contacted, um, none, I can barely gear up to reply. I’m just not that interested…(or is it that I’m completely self-absorbed?).
Perhaps I’ll give it a couple more weeks of dabbling…yet I’m inclined to think that my life is good: my cup is always overflowing, I’m having a wonderful time with my children and my own interests, and I’m grateful for what I’ve got going on right now as a single, fabulous mama!
the life and loves of Alisa B 
Amen to that!! I too am single after a 2 year relationship with a man I met on the internet. (I was married for 22 years, and have been divorced for 5 years) He was lovely, but I just knew that it wasn’t right in the long run. He wanted more than I could give (I have 4 young adult kids, all based with me) So once again, alone…..but not alone, as I have my kids. I have decided not to go looking for someone else, because like you, I am quite happy with my life. I will continue to do the things I like to do on my own…..but if I meet someone along the way, that would be lovely. I tried internet dating too, POF, and yes, it is time-consuming, sometimes fun, but like you say……looking for a needle in a haystack. I have decided not to go back on there, not for now anyway.
OkStupid? I find that the men I want to date–smart, liberal, quirky, not wanting omgmarriageandbabies tomorrow–are on there, but I have a feeling it skews young.
I just started dating an *amazing* guy I met on there, but if you read my blog (http://thisiswhyimsingleyo.wordpress.com/2012/05/24/musings-on-online-dating-part-1-burnout/ — sorry I hate to pimp) you will know how many horrible bad dates I went on 50+?
I know it sounds as though I don’t have an open mind about it just now — truth is, I’m looking for someone a little more “indie,” a little more foodie and a little more artsy… I don’t know…I just what I’m experiencing right now isn’t tripping my trigger. Still, I intend to stay with it for a bit…