About 18 months ago…
There was simply no emotional intimacy in my marriage any longer. My husband was dishonest and had made decisions that affected our family without talking to me; the betrayals were insidious. My mistrust was so complete that I was constantly wondering what and when the next big betrayal would be. I had lost hope. And I had already determined to end it.
So it came as a surprise to me when, after so many months of abstinence, my husband complained about not getting any sex.
I raged, “How can you expect physical intimacy when you’ve denied me emotional intimacy for so long?! It goes both ways.”
The fact is, I enjoy sex. I probably wanted it more than he did. And I always found him physically attractive. But I couldn’t even look him in the eye anymore, much less share myself in such an intimate way.
But I think the bigger question is this: Are men really that clueless? Do they really think if they’re not getting any, that they have nothing to do with it?
Oh, wait…I think I may be able to answer this one myself…